Redefining Forgiveness

I have the honor of working with a lot of trauma survivors in my practice.  It is hard work, and I’m often inspired by the courage of a trauma survivor.  For those who have survived interpersonal violence or abuse, one of the greatest challenges of the healing process is forgiveness.  I’d like to take a moment to address the misconceptions of forgiveness. I’d like to redefine forgiveness as acceptance.  A lot of survivors believe that...

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The Importance of Unplugging

Our smart phones are no longer just phones.  Most of us have a relationship with our phones.  They hold our calendars and our schedules.  They can now serve as our timekeepers, our alarms, our watches.  They provide infinite methods for us to remain stimulated, informed and entertained at all times. They provide endless ways of communicating with anyone, all the time. By touching just a few buttons, we can have essentially anything delivered to...

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Solutions to our New Years Resolution Failures

I have a confession to make.  Outside of my work life, I am not an organized person.  I like being neat, but being neat and being organized are not the same thing. The only reason why I’m (moderately) organized in my work life is because I have to be.  The administrative aspects of my work life that require organization are my least favorite parts of the job.  My home life, on the other hand, can be described as organized chaos.  I may...

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Avoidance and Anxiety in Childhood Anxiety Disorders

Managing a child’s anxiety can be quite difficult for parents. Sometimes parents know that the teen has an irrational fear so they try to convince the child through logical argument that they are safe. This can feel like running on a rat-wheel, however, as rational argument doesn’t have any lasting impact on the child. They may feel somewhat comforted today, but be just as afraid tomorrow. Other times, the child’s distress is so intense that...

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Having Realistic Expectations for Therapy

Making that first phone call to schedule an appointment with a psychologist takes courage.  For many, it’s the first time such a phone call has ever been made. And it’s the first step to change.  But what does change really look like?  What can one realistically expect from therapy? The purpose of this blog is to address the false or unrealistic expectations that some people have prior to entering therapy.  Unrealistic expectations...

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